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"You Got This Girl"


I often end conversations or text messages with "You got this girl". In my world, women simply can't encourage other women enough. The power of a woman is incredible, and I want to make sure all women have the confidence to use their power and be successful. This mantra needs no explaining. I have said it to myself many times. It helped me to move forward, when I had self-doubt and thought the best solution was to give up.   

Successful women use these three little words, and have people in their world that say, "I'm on it". "I'm on it" means, of high importance, I will do that right now, you don't have to worry about it one more second. I like to be able to say to others, "I'm on it". I drop everything and quickly resemble the cat in the picture.  

A big part of being successful is reaching out to others for their help along the way. Asking for help is one of the most difficult things we do, it comes with an uncomfortable feeling. We rehearse in our heads what we are going to say and immediately prepare ourselves for rejection. Our first thought is that we should be able to do it ourselves and it is a sign of failure or laziness if we can't. We all know the feeling of being asked to do something. To be included in other people's projects gives us a feeling of being worthy. I reflect on that feeling when I need to ask others for help. It goes without saying, it is a whole lot easier to help, as opposed to asking for help. I like to think that peace of mind knowing something is done, rather than wishing it was done, is simply self-care.

My rule for asking for help is to only ask once. I am not a recycle back kind of person. I assume "no answer" means "not interested."  I have an amazing group of people in my life, that respond the first time. The etransfer is sent in 5 minutes, the reply is on my phone or what I asked for shows up the next time they see me. There are those wonderful people that say, "I can't help with that, but I can do this." My personal favorite is the person that says, "make sure you ask me again." They go immediately on my "ask them" list. 

It is an unwritten rule to have "no expectations" when it comes to support or being the person to help. I have it in my head who will come through in a big way. I am usually right, but it is the random person that surprises me. They just wanted to help because they heard me speaking about a project. They are doing what I like to say, "the right thing". If people don't show up, I think they have forgotten, they maybe aren't "on it" right away or they "aren't interested". I have learned the hard way it is easier to have no expectations when it comes to asking for support. It is always the random person or the random act that makes it all worth it.  

There is such power in the written word. I believe that the four words, "You got this, girl" is what is needed to give that girl the confidence to believe in herself. If you use the line, "I'm on it" enjoy the fact that others know you will take care of it. Feel comfortable in giving and accepting help. Reach out and make sure others know how they can help you. You simply can't overuse the words, "how can I help." Think about what your line is, make sure you use it; and never forget "You got this girl." 



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