Every time the gals from my paddling team get together it is a celebration. We call it a practice, meeting, volunteering or whatever we choose for that night. But, in reality it a celebration of friendship and survival. Some of those friendships started in 1999 and others are only a couple of years old. Maybe it is the stories, but it seems like we have known each other for a much longer time. This group emulates sisterhood, and it is an honor to be part of it.
If I had to advocate for something, it would always be the strength of a woman. Women have learned how to be adaptable. Through their entire lives a woman's body goes through so many changes. But it is when the going gets tough, that the tough get going. And that is a woman with her back against the wall. Look out if it involves a child because no one is safe at that moment in time. Somehow if a woman is sick, she just manages. From her sick bed she can still be in command, not only of herself but everyone around her.
Women pay attention. Women that rise to the top in a man's world, have paid attention. If a man and a woman are both given a task unfamiliar to them, men are confident that they already know how to do it. A woman on the other hand, knows she doesn't have a clue, so she is locked in to learn. Once complete a woman has done as asked and her end result looks exactly like it should. Whereas a man is trying to figure out what was wrong with the way he did it.
I heard once that men need women friends because they help them through difficult situations. Of course they do, what man is going to truly understand the emotional pain another man is going through. The empathy a man needs is what a woman has to offer.
When women apologize for being upset or crying, I say "feel your feelings and when you are ready, you will move on". Every person has the right to be upset; women need to take the time they need to get over their hurt feelings. Because, when they do, look out. They are stronger and more focused than they ever imagined they could be. They now have a new plan and are ready to implement it.
There are two types of friendships. The first is an old friend, the person that knows you and your story. As a friendship, you know the same people and the history to everything that has happened in your life. Then there is the person that you have met and you say, "I feel like I have known you all my life". You have a natural connection with them even though they don't know your story. It could be that you think alike or have the same work ethics whatever it is you sense it right from the start. Things in your past are not what brought you together it is the present. It is like a fresh start.
We don't celebrate life enough; any type of celebration is special. If you know a woman that I have just described, celebrate her. I don't think we celebrate female friendships enough. Women are encouragers, but we can fall short in telling another woman how proud we are of them. We find it easier to tell other people how impressed we are with a friend; we need to just take it one step further and make sure our friend knows it as well. Celebrate your female friendships, we are blessed to have other females in our lives to celebrate with.
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