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There is always someone that knows

My Rolodex consists of the people that I go to for an answer, to connect me with another person, or to give me sound advice. A simple text or email to one of my rolodex people, and I am up and running. When it comes to the point that I have to use my rolodex person, I always do as they suggest. That is the point of spinning my rolodex, to get a sound answer. The thing I really like about my rolodex is whoever I ask, also has a rolodex of their own, and if they can't help me, they may have someone that can. There is always someone that knows what I need to know. 

I read a touching comment on Facebook, which was the inspiration for this post. A young lady who was living on her own, called her dad for help because throughout her life, her dad always knew what to do. The dad was obviously touched to be called, and he hoped that his daughter would continue to call him for help and that he would know what to do.

Google search and Facebook are places that definitely know what to do. I have done some crazy things just by following a video from U tube. If it hadn't been for U tube, I wouldn't have been able to take my dishwasher out. That included cutting the power and putting the knobby thing over the wires. Putting a plug in the drain and dealing with shutting off the water supply. The hardest part for me was getting up and down off of the floor a million times. It is hands down my most accomplished moment. I am so glad U tube knew what do. I realize for those of you who have followed me since the start, you are very tired of the dishwasher story. But maybe, just maybe, it is new story to someone or perhaps a reminder of details that you may have been forgotten.  
I practice a line, "if you don't know what to do, do nothing". Mistakes or bad decisions are often made because we rush a decision. Take your time, rolodex your people and make a sound decision. It seems natural to always want a quick answer; we also want the answer to align with what we want to hear. 

I am not sure what young parents are using for guidance these days, but they seem to check everything on their phones. I guess they don't realize they were raised by non-app parents and look at how they turned out. Those same parents are locked and loaded with knowledge and ready to answer any questions they may have, if asked. In our minds, any experienced parent is someone that knows. With the ability to google any topic, a quick answer is right there for young parents and is often the chosen answer.   

We all know people that come to us for advice, because they believe we would know what to do. They start the conversation with, "I am asking for your advice". It is a powerful moment because we enjoy the fact that they think we know what to do. We share our knowledge, and then they say what they are going to do, and it is nothing like our suggestion. It becomes clear that they are spinning their rolodex and asking several people to get the best answer that aligns with want they want. Our profound information is just added to the list of advice to be considered. 
I use my "Rolodex of Wisdom" often. Wisdom is something that only comes with years of experience and mistakes. I like to think of myself as someone that needs wisdom and can give wisdom. You will never find wisdom in a google search. It is the hard knocks in life that teach you more than any good life ever thought of. Wisdom people "know what to do". 








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