We Deserve to Splurge

From time to time, I use the word "splurge", and on occasion I have heard someone else use it. When I heard the phrase, "we deserve to splurge" I felt like I was missing out on something. I have never put any thought into the fact that we deserve a splurge, but why wouldn't we. The word "splurge" is a universal language, if means you are clarifying to another person that you are aware you spent too much, or possibly didn't need the item, but you really wanted it, and you bought it. You can now relax; you deserve to splurge, and no explanation is required.

For me a "splurge" is spontaneous, somewhat reckless. I now know that a splurge can be planned to meet your own goals. It is called "smart splurging". Impulsive splurging is what I am familiar with; it is driven by emotion and often leaves us with a sense of remorse or guilt. Smart splurging requires thought and is intentional. It starts by putting money away. It's about focusing on what truly matters, and every purchase feels intentional, empowered and aligns with the bigger picture. It is spending with purpose. It is about saying yes to the things that matter the most.

Overall, I think women struggle to spend money on themselves, and when they do they justify why they bought it. There is a strange feeling that overcomes me when I just buy an article because I liked it and wanted it. So, now that we are armed with the idea of a smart splurge, it all makes sense. A woman has many roles in life, and a smart splurge is more like "self-care". Saying yes to a purchase without second guessing is the biggest key. It is a golden moment to treat yourself without feeling guilty.

Armchair shopping as I call it, has become quite the practice. Amazon or online shopping is much like the old catalogue shopping at Sears of Eaton's. Of course, it is instant gratification when you push the buy button; you receive an approximate delivery date, and the waiting begins for the arrival of the order. One very helpful thing when online shopping is that the splurge item can sit in your "cart" for an undetermined amount of time. Perhaps, until I deserve to splurge is over!!!! Another 911 rescue for splurge shopping is the "take back" rule. Winners is a place to splurge, and it is also a place to "take back". The thing with winners is, if you see what you want, you better grab it because it will be gone! All rules are out the window; when you get home you can deal with its purpose, or who you are going to give it to.

The best splurge is the one that feels as good six months later as it did in the moment. Getting to relive a splurge is the best feeling. Lasting joy not a temporary high. You should never have to explain or defend treating yourself. A splurge should spark joy and light you up.

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